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Been Awhile

2007-09-18T15:05:00.000-07:00

Yeah I know it's been awhile since I've posted. Sort of unlike me but I've been a little busy the last month or so. The good news is that dh's job finally offered a PPO for employees. Can you believe the only option was an HMO that paid absolutely nothing? Anyway this just happened 2 weeks ago so Yippeee and they pay for infertility treatment - a $10,000 lifetime max. It may help me pay for one cycle of IVF.

I'm trying very hard to avoid having to go that far. I feel it, something will happen soon. :). Not so surprising one of my old coworkers/friends called me up last week. (yeah you know where this is going don't ya?) Well I asked what she was up to and she said "nothing, tired all the time, nauseas and sleeping all the time." As a joke I asked if she was pregnant. Lo and behold she is.

I mean if a 36 year old with one ovary and only bd twice last month gets pregnant, I'm sure something is in store for me this year. I wish her the best--she has two teenagers and thought she was done. Her woes are starting over and my woes are trying to start. Always something huh?

Always the Babysitter, Never the ?

2007-08-01T10:48:00.001-07:00

Well you get the picture. All four of my July babies have been born and are healthy. As you can imagine July was a little tough. I would always say that my husband and I will most likely be professional babysitters (with all of the business that we get). Now it seems that I'm really getting there.

My brother in law now owns a professional child care agency and I've been hired. So I've worked a couple of assignments. In a way I think it's good therapy for me so that I don't fall into depression everytime I see baby or kids or not to mention another pregnant woman.

Speaking of that-just found another acquaintance is pregnant the other day. You're probably wondering why I write these things but its only to vent and relieve a little stress. I'm patiently waiting for DH's company to offer a PPO or at least a better insurance option. I just got a $500 bill for nothing it seems. This stinking HMO is costing me more money and frustration. I mean geez, if we had money to spend like that in the first place, we definitely wouldn't purchase HMO coverage.

They said September, hopefully it will cover IVF or some portion of infertility treatment.

Kids Ask the Dardnest Questions

2007-07-26T14:55:00.000-07:00

I've been nagging about how many pregnant women I'm fortunate enough to know this year. One of my July babies (there are 2 more to go) was born two week ago (tomorrow). We are taking turns fixing food for her and delivering it and I chose Tuesday. She's such a pro as this is her 5th baby. The oldest is all of 7 and when I went up to deliver the food I drooled over the gorgeous newborn.

Then the questions. The oldest asked "Do you have kids?" Not too bad, he's seven. But then the next question "Why Not?" I thought for awhile about how to answer such a loaded question. I finally decided on "I don't know."

You can't get upset with a seven year old but I thought it was very awkward. It's funny because he had asked me if I had kids when I saw him 4th of July. I'm avoiding the adults who ask and now I have to avoid the kids lol. The mom is always afraid of what he'll ask but at the same time I think they are wondering what the answer to THAT question is?

"I don't know"

September is the month that hubby's crappy insurance at work upgrades to include a PPO plan. Then maybe I can pursue my IVF treatment again.

TESE-ICSI

2007-07-23T13:22:00.000-07:00

Male Infertility

Just in case my last post was misunderstood, I'm including this one. My last post was a sort of heads up about overusing or misusing ICSI. However, ICSI has proven to be a very effective treatment option for men who have no sperm cells in his ejaculate. In these cases the men can not impregnate a woman without such a procedure and thus it may be necessary if they expect any chance of fathering a child.

In Testicular Sperm Extraction, the testicular tissues are biopsied to obtain the mature sperm cells that are not present in the ejaculate. Vasecotomies are a common cause of there being no sperm in the ejaculate. A vasectomy is the removal of the tube that transports these mature sperm cells.

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Clinics Might Be Overusing Sperm Injection Method in Fertility Treatments

2007-07-20T15:21:00.000-07:00

ICSI May Be Overused

And costing you more money than necessary. It's quite interesting that the article states that the percentage of cycles that used ICSI increased from 11% (1995) to 57.5% (2004). What is ironic is that the percentage of male related infertility has remained the same (34%). In addition the results of live births were higher (albeit slightly) than those who did not use the technique. And if that's not enough higher birth defects were reported...

ICSI is most often used for male factor infertility (low sperm counts or poor quality) and costs about an addtional $1500 on top of the regular in vitro fertilization costs.

We have to be so careful to make sure we are as informed as we can be when it comes to trying to conceive. Unfortunately there are those who are out to take advantage of our desperation to be parents.

Reproductive Health Services | Clinics Might Be Overusing Sperm Injection Method in Fertility Treatments, Study Says - Kaisernetwork.org

London Nutritionist Wins TV Baby Fertility Challenge

2007-07-18T11:29:00.000-07:00

Improved Diet Wins

Great story here. Everyone knows that I'm a huge fan of improving your overall state of health before being pumped with lots of medication. Of course I'm not totally against medications but with all of the possible side effects, its easier and more beneficial just to correct the irregularities. It's also a lot less expensive than traditional infertility treatment.

Turns out in this challenge the Nutrionist was able to win the challenge by being the first to get an infertile couple pregnant. The competition was againt a couple undergoing IVF and a couple receiving acupuncture therapy.

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London Nutritionist Wins TV Baby Fertility Challenge

Enough to make you cry

2007-07-16T10:42:00.000-07:00

A very touching article on IVF

This article is a must read for anyone who suffers from infertility. It really hits home. Its strange but after going through IVF and becomin pregnant, the excitement is short lived as you begin to worry and obsess over whether or not you will sustain the pregnancy. Infertility is a very lonely ordeal. Why don't we talk about it? I guess one reason is knowing that we will have to deal with the insensitve comments that are sometimes meant to make us feel better but often does the opposite.

Enough to make you cry - Parenting - Life & Style Home - brisbanetimes.com.au

Men Conceived Through Fertility Treatment Have a Sperm Count Half the Normal, Danish Study Reports

2007-07-12T11:50:00.000-07:00

Male Infertility related to Infertility Treatment

I just read this article. It talks about a study that showed a significant relationship between the sperm count of men who were conceived through infertility treatment as opposed to those who were conceived naturally. I was left with a couple of questions after reading this article.

1. If it affects the sperm count in men, then does it also affect the egg quality in women?
2. Why didn't they ask for they specific type of infertility treatment received? (It would seem that if you go through the trouble to try to link treatment to low sperm counts, that you would at least document the type of treatment as well).
3. Was the sperm count associated with male infertility? Did they have children?

It points out that the men were undergoing testing for army fitness requirements but it doesn't state if there were any evidence that were having trouble conceiving.

You can read the article yourself and tell me what you think:

Men Conceived Through Fertility Treatment Have a Sperm Count Half the Normal, Danish Study Reports: "involved many possible confounding factors, especially the possibility that these men had inherited an infertility problem. Nevertheless, the New "

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10 surprisingly sexy dates - MSN Dating & Personals

2007-07-06T08:41:00.000-07:00

I bet you're wondering why I'm posting this article in a blog about Infertility. Well, I'm sure we could all benefit from some creative sexy dates once in awhile. Take a load off, take your mind off of trying to conceive, infertility treatments, doctors, pokes and prods. Really relaxing and just enjoying each other like you did before you realized that you're an adult. OH to be a kid again....

10 surprisingly sexy dates - MSN Dating & Personals

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Too Many Babies

2007-07-03T23:55:00.000-07:00

Today was really strange for me. First I realized that I am 30 years old. I just turned 30 last month but it didn't really hit me until I had to write it down today and for some reason it just looked like a strange number. I guess I've been putting 2s in front of my numbers for so long...and now for there to be a 3....then 4. Ok on to the next moment.

You know I've been posting about all of the pregnancies that I've been fortunate enough to have to suffer through this year. I finally sat and counted them. I ended up with 22. That's right 22 personal friends or family members. Actually only 2 were family and 2 old friends and the others are people I've met in the last 5.5 years since I've been married. If we want to add in the others that I know of but don't really know personally then I can add about 3 more.

Is it just me or does it seem like 2007 is just extremely busy for the babies? Oh and that's all I have for now - give me till the end of the week and I'm sure I'll add to that number. Not to mention I still don't have my December baby locked in just yet so I'm waiting for that. It's almost a game now...only I'm constantly reminded that I'm losing (j/k). It is strange though.

Oh well Have a wonderful holiday

Caio,

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My Cysts is Gone

2007-06-27T18:32:00.000-07:00

Disappearing Ovarian Cyst

Well I got my update for the technician last week and it turns out that my ovulatory cyst is gone. Yippeeee. Only I know that it will be baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack. You see I've had two previous physicians confirm that the large monster camping out on my left ovary is an ovulatory cyst. As expected with the new physician, it was just way to large (10cm) for her to accept that.

Of course I don't expect her to take my word for it and to be certain, but it was the sort of condescending look and response that she gave me. It was as if either I didn't know what I was saying or the other physicians didn't know what they were doing.

So, I set up the appointment and on Day 4 I went it and Voila! cyst was gone. I was relieved for not only being right, but I wasn't aware that it actually disappeared completely. I was thinking that it just shrunk after my menstrual cycle and got larger after ovulation. Either way the doc doesn't think there is any reason to be concerned about it.

I still have to visit the endocrinologyist though for clarification on my thyroid. Does it ever end?

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4Real?

2007-06-26T13:16:00.000-07:00

Bizarre baby names

Just browsing today and came across these two sites:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20070623/od_afp/lifestylebritainnames

Yahoo!

I found it quite odd that two human beings could agree that '4Real' is an ok name for a baby. What's stranger is that they feel that the kid would thank them for it later and that the everyone is teased about their name, no matter what it is. Well for starters there is good teasing and not so good teasing. For example, my name is Victoria and of course I get the "What's your secret?", "Queen Victoria", "Queenie" etc.. but they do not hurt or ridicule. I think these parents have seriously confused harmless teasing with ridicule.

I can't say whether the child will actually grow to love his name (provided it is accepted) but it would be interesting. Maybe it's a nice stage name for a rapper or such. It may actually pay off. I just hope that the kid doesn't suffer before then. I can honestly see how "4Real"? could come to my mind if by some miracle I got a positive pregnancy test --- but it wouldn't end up on the birth certificate.

As far as the baby with 25 names (that she will hopefully never use) what can we say?

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Vacation is Over

2007-06-15T13:59:00.000-07:00

It's been a few weeks since I've posted. I went back home to South Carolina for my nephew's graduation. Man, these kids grow up fast. I was sooo happy to see my two beautiful new nephews and new cousins. I miss them so much. I'm officially the only married female in the family with no kids. So as you can imagine, I spent the first part of my vacation answering the "What are you waiting for questions." I can't even count how many times I answered that in one day.

I don't even get upset anymore. Although I'm still trying, there is no reason to add more stress by getting upset. They don't know and if they did, they probably wouldn't mention it. Giving the benefit of doubt is best, besides unless you want to divulge your situation, you just smile and politely say something else. I love to tell people that I'm waiting on them to do something that I know they are not willing or able to do, ex. have more kids (older women). That usually ends the conversation in a joking manner and I keep my business to myself.

I'm fortunate to have a wonderful MIL who hardly mentions it even though I know she's longing for a grandchild. I'm her only hope right now--lucky her huh. Funny I don't even get upset when she does mention it. We had a short conversation shortly after my nephew was born and I think she got a little clue. She asked if I wanted kids and I said yes and then she asked if my husband wanted them and I said yes. She then said "Ok, then whatever happens happens." Really appreciate that--no meddling and no further questions. Too cool.

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The Unexpected

2007-05-25T14:15:00.000-07:00

Ok the last 24 hours have been crazy for me. Good news bad news and just plain weird news. Yesterday I find out than an ex whom I thought I left on the east coast 6 years ago now lives 1 hour away from me on the west coast. Then I call an old friend today only to find out that another friend is HIV positive and then I call a call from a friend who is pregnant.

She called 45 minutes ago and said I have good news. And of course in my sarcasm (in a good way) I said "What? you having a baby?" and to my surprise I was right, my November baby. Who's Decemeber gonnna be? I don't know yet but I will know soon and I will keep you updated..

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Woman defends decision to give birth at 60 - TODAY: People - MSNBC.com

2007-05-24T11:22:00.000-07:00

Advanced Maternal Age

Here we go again. I'm not going to talk about whether or not she should have had a child at this age because it's irrelevant in my personal opinion. The baby is here and it should be a happy occasion. What shocked me more in the fact that the IVF worked for her. I think it's amazing and gives hope to women trying to conceive after 40. We can look at this in two ways. We can be positive and hopeful or we can be negative and wonder why her and not me. I think being positive is the answer. After all nothing comes into existence without against the Will our Creator and who are we to question His judgment.

I guess you can see I'm making some personal progress lately. I have my days but I'm now content with whatever happens. The article is below in case you missed it.

And why does it seem to be so easy for these women to conceive at this age? I wonder.
Woman defends decision to give birth at 60 - TODAY: People - MSNBC.com

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A Happy Mother's Day

2007-05-14T18:49:00.000-07:00

May Baby Arrives

I hope everyone made it through Mother's Day with flying colors. I did very well and I'm continuing to stay positive. I know that my infertility is for a reason and temporary and I accept that when it happens for me, it will be at the best time and the same is true for all of you also.

My May due date friend had her baby yesterday morning. What a gift! I know I'm not alone in feeling that Mother's Day is every day and we can never repay them or show enough appreciation for them.

I just read this beautiful story on Fertilethoughts.com. I'm sure some of you have seen it already but I'll post it again.

>>We are sitting at lunch one day when my daughter casually mentions that
>>she and her husband are thinking of "starting a family." "We're taking
>>a survey," she says half-joking. "Do you think I should have a baby?"
>>
>>"It will change your life," I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral.
>>"I know," she says, "no more sleeping in on weekends, no more
>>spontaneous vacations."
>>
>>But that is not what I meant at all. I look at my daughter, trying to
>>decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn
>>in childbirth classes.
>>
>>I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child-bearing will heal,
>>but becoming a mother will l leave her with an emotional wound so raw
>>that she will forever be vulnerable. I consider warning her that she
>>will never again read a newspaper without asking, "What if that had been
>>MY child?"
>>
>>That every plane crash and every house fire will haunt her. That when
>>she sees pictures of starving children, she will wonder if anything
>>could be worse than watching your child die.
>>
>>I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think that
>>no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her
>>to the primitive level of a bear protecting her cub. That an urgent call
>>of "Mom!" will cause her to drop a soufflÃ© or her best crystal without a
>>moment's
>>hesitation
>>
>>I feel that I should warn her that no matter how many years she has
>>invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood.
>>She might arrange for childcare, but one day she will be going into an
>>important business s meeting and she will think of her baby's sweet smell.
>>She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running
>>home, just to make sure her baby is all right.
>>
>>I want my daughter to know that every day decisions will no longer be
>>routine. That a five year old boy's desire to go to the men's room
>>rather than the women's at McDonald's will become a major dilemma. That
>>right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming children,
>>issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the
>>prospect that a child molester may be lurking in that restroom.
>>
>>However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess
>>herself constantly as a mother. Looking at my attractive daughter, I
>>want to assure her that eventually she will shed the pounds of
>>pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself. That her
>>life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a
>>child. That she would give herself up in a moment to save her
>>offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years, not to
>>accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish theirs.
>>
>>I want her to know that a cesarean scar or shiny stretch marks will
>>become badges of honor. My daughter's relationship with her husband
>>will change, and not in the way she thinks. I wish she could understand
>>how much more you can love a man who is careful to powder the baby or
>>who never hesitates to play with his child. I think she should know
>>that she will fall in love with him again for reasons she would now
>>find very unromantic. I wish my daughter could sense the bond she will
>>feel with women throughout history who have tried to stop war, prejudice
>>and drunk driving.
>>
>>I want to describe to my daughter the exhilaration of seeing your child
>>learn to ride a bike. I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a
>>baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog or cat for the first time. I
>>want her to taste the joy that is so real it actually hurts.
>>
>>My daughter's quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in
>>my eyes. "You'll never regret it," I finally say. Then I reached across
>>the table, squeezed my daughter's hand and offered a silent prayer for
>>her, and for me, and for all the mere mortal women who stumble their
>>way into this most wonderful of callings.
>>
>>Please share this with a Mom that you know or all of your girlfriends
>>who may someday be Moms.
>>
>>May you always have in your arms the one who is in your heart!

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Infertility Insensitive Comments

2007-04-20T11:45:00.000-07:00

Most insensitive comments

Vent session underway. I read and hear about a lot of insensitive remarks that some of us have encountered throughout this infertility journey. How about you post some of your remarks in the comments. These should be comments that you have received personally or if you are bold enough, comments that you have made (be forewarned I can not be responsible for the results if you choose the latter option).

As I mentioned before I haven't had much experience in the horrible remarks because I don't really discuss the subject with people who are popping out babies right and left.

Don't forget the ones from insensitive mil. Which I'm fortunate to have a wonderful, patient and non meddling mil. However she is starting to ask now but she thinks we are just waiting....Anyway

Here are some of the remarks that I've received

1. "You are thinking about it too much" & insisting that this is the cause
2. "What you guys don't want kids? You've been married for awhile haven't you?"

Yeah I know pretty mild compared to the ones that I've heard from others and would like to hear from now.

Post away and feel free to vent (no profanity though-you can use the little symbols though) :)

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Trials and Infertility

2007-04-18T10:45:00.000-07:00

The other day I called up my aunt to wish her happy birthday and ended up speaking to one of my cousins for hours. I hardly ever speak to her but when I do the converstations are usually pretty long (partly because we don't speak at length for years). Anywho we discussed so many things and usually I don't disclose my trouble conceiving to anyone (unless they are also having trouble conceiving or have been there in the past).

My cousin is a 40 year old beautiful woman who is still single. While we were talking amazingly I learned a lot about her and her trials. While we struggle with infertility, she struggles with wondering if she will ever get married and find the right one. In additon because of her age, fertility may be an issue for her also.

Its a concern for a few of my unmarried friends but perhaps a little less because they are a lot younger. All in all its frustrating to hear insensitive comments from others and although it seems like we have been jilted--it's always something, our trial is different from that of others--but still a trial.

Even though we don't share the same trial I was comfortable discussing the issue with her because she understood the difficulty and frustration of insensitive remarks. In the process I also learned that her sister (my cousin) also suffered from infertility and finally adopted.

For years she dealt with the loss and the hurt of not being able to carry a pregnany. Now she feels like its a blessing for her and the children who otherwise may not have parents.

She says that not everyone has the ability to love a child that they did not birth and her special gift for her to raise children that otherwise may not have a mother to care for them. She even has a beautiful granddaughter now that she also takes care of which is an added blessing.

This conversation gave me more inspiration because now I don't look at infertility as so much of a trial. Its difficult but everyone has their own difficulties and I feel a lot more compassion for the many children who wish they could have chosen parents like the ones we want so desperately to become.

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Infertility Survey

2007-04-16T19:34:00.000-07:00

Help with Survey

Hello, I'm conducting a little survey regarding infertility products and services. I would greatly appreciate it if you could take just a few minutes to take the survey. It's only 10 questions and half of them are multiple choice.

Click here to take survey

Thanks

Early Menopause

2007-04-15T20:01:00.000-07:00

Erratic cycles and early menopause

A few weeks ago I posted a question about erratic cycle lengths. I was asking if anyone experienced similar issues. Someone wrote that my symptoms were very similar to theirs right before early menopause.

My question now is for everyone or anyone who has experienced early menopause and what were some of the symptoms? It concerns me b.c my mom experience early menopause but in her mid 40s and after having 5 children.

I had an appointment last week with they gyn and she said that my thyroid felt enlarged. After blood test came back normal she is a little puzzled and is referring me to an endocrinologist to get my thyroid checked further. I will keep you posted on the outcome, but if anyone has any information or personal experiences please share.

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Regular IVF 'best' if one egg retrieved

2007-04-11T07:29:00.000-07:00

IVF and ICSI yield similar results

Hi everyone,

I'm back after being MIA for awhile. Moving is very exhausting but at least the spring cleaning is done. I hope all is well with you. Despite my very busy weeks, the pregnancy announcements have not let up on my end-with me receiving a new announcement (or two) each weekend.

It's great because the more often I hear them, the more I expect them and hence, the less crappy I feel when I realize that I'm turning 30 in a few months and nothing yet. I feel great and I'm just going to savor the time and do whatever I can to accomplish my goal.

I just ran across an interesting article which compares rates of ICSI and IVF. Pretty interesting read.

Regular IVF 'best' if one egg retrieved

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Erratic Menstrual Cycles

2007-03-16T11:15:00.000-07:00

Does anyone have erratic cycles?

This may seem like an obvious question but its weird because my cycles are pretty regular (it comes every month). However they vary in length each and every month almost. For example, most often its 31 days but sometimes 28 or 29 or 34 or 37 or in extremely annoying cases up to 45 days. It makes the unbearable two week wait seem even more grueling because I never know when it starts (the tww). Charting the temps don't seem to help because based on what is supposedly my ovulation day and my cycle due date do not seem to correlate. And I wonder why I can't seem to get pregnant.

The long cycles is another issue all together......

Anyone know what I'm talking about? When I hear about irregular cycles its usually those who skip a month or more.

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Another New Nephew for Me

2007-03-13T16:14:00.000-07:00

Born today I have a yet another nephew. For now he's nameless. That makes 2 babies this month. My April friend delivered a month earler (last week). It must be boy fever for me in 2007. Oh I almost forgot my February friend who also delivered a baby boy last month. Score Boys: 4 Girls: 0.

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March is Endometriosis Awareness Month

2007-03-11T20:15:00.000-07:00

It is estimated that 25%-50% of women with infertility
experience endometriosis, a chronic disease that causes
painful, heavy menstrual cycles and bowel and bladder symptoms
around the time of ovulation or menstruation. Review this list
of "Questions to Ask" if you think you have the disease and/or
if you do have endometriosis and are considering treatment.

http://www.resolve. org/site/ DocServer/ 43-Endometriosis .pdf?docID= 2741

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Recurrent Pregnancy Loss

2007-03-08T13:12:00.000-08:00

American Fertility Association Chat Sessions

Hi ladies,
Just in case some of you were unaware, the American Fertility Association will be conducting a chat session on recurrent pregnancy loss. Although I'm personally still waiting to get that positive test, it seems like a great session to sit in on. The session is March 21, 2007 from 8pm-9pm EST. You can find more info by following the link below.

Has anyone ever attended these sessions or similar sessions? I would love to know what you think?

The American Fertility Association

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Stress, Secrecy and Infertility On CNN

2007-03-07T14:46:00.000-08:00

Tune it tonight to CNN (8pm EST)

Tune in to CNN’s Paula Zahn NOW, tonight at 8 pm EST to hear Guy Ringler, MD, noted reproductive endocrinologist and AFA board member, expose the link between secrecy, stress and reproductive difficulties. Be sure to listen for his mention of The AFA’s stress reduction support and information programs.

In keeping with Zahn’s series on “things people don’t talk about and should,” Ringler, a partner in Los Angeles-based California Fertility Partners, raised The AFA’s educational initiative, “Let’s Talk About Sex.” Officially launching in April at The AFA’s Illuminations Event in Los Angeles, this cutting edge program will provide candid and objective information about the relationship of sexually transmitted diseases and compromised fertility. The goal: stamp out preventable infertility.

Remember, tonight, 8 pm EST, Paula Zahn NOW on CNN for insights on reproductive disorders and stress featuring noted Reproductive Endocrinologist, Guy Ringler, MD.

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Ice Cream and Whole-Fat Milk Smooth the Way to Conception

2007-03-01T20:15:00.000-08:00

Did you see this?

Can it be this simple? I'm not sure but at least I won't feel so bad when I go and fix a big bowl of ice cream while I watch LOST (DVR-didn't watch it yesterday). You mean to tell me the 2% milk I've been drinking for years is the culprit? Wishful thinking for me. With unexplained infertility I'll be willing to accept about anything at this point.

Ice Cream and Whole-Fat Milk Smooth the Way to Conception - CME Teaching Brief® - MedPage Today: "appeared when low-fat and high-fat foods were considered separately. "

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Helping couples conceive

2007-02-24T19:30:00.000-08:00

Maylasians woman find creative ways to offer financial support for infertility

I just read this article and found it very inspiring. It also sparks a few ideas to not only raise money for your own treatment but possibly to help others afford treatment.

Helping couples conceive

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JS Online: Author had long, painful wait for her daughter

2007-02-24T19:21:00.000-08:00

Author Share Memoirs on Infertility

Just FYI if you live in the Milwaukee area, this may be an interesting event to attend (free). A freelance author shares her memoir: "Waiting for Daisy: A Tale of Two Continents, Three Religions, Five Infertility Doctors, An Oscar, An Atomic Bomb, A Romantic Night and One Woman's Quest to Become a Mother."

More info can be obtained in the short article attached.

JS Online: Author had long, painful wait for her daughter

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Metformin not that promising as InfertilityTreatment

2007-02-08T22:49:00.000-08:00

Metformin in PCOS patients
There seems to be quite a bit of questions regarding PCOS as well as buzz about Metformin being used as treatment for infertility. I found this really interesting article that may be of interest to those who have PCOS and/or considering using Metformin as treatment for infertility.

Standard treatment more effective than diabetes drug for achieving pregnancy in fertility disorder:

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My New Nephew is Here

2007-01-30T19:42:00.000-08:00

Jayden Arrives

Adding some sunshine to this very rainy and initially bleak day is my new nephew Jayden. I told you all earlier that the ever so fortunate me has the pleasure of having a friend or family member due in every month up until August. And since I can't go much past that now, they have started to double up on me. 3 in July and no soon as my January arrives do I get an email from a friend. The subject: Baby. No words in the email only ultrasound pictures. I'm not sure how far along yet but its pretty far because everything is quite visible.

I'm really excited about new nephew and I'm so happy for my baby brother (who's 4 years older than me). He's been my rock and my support for sooo long and I'm just happy to see him with such a blessing.

I wish I could see him but I have to wait till summer. By then I'll have another one (my sister's baby) to see also.

Gotta admit it takes a lot to handle the knowledge of all these pregnancies. Never have I known so many pregnant women at one time. But I'm happy for them all and with all of these some baby dust has to make its way around right?

2007 is our year ladies.......

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A vitamin a day may do more harm than good - Diet & Nutrition - MSNBC.com

2007-01-19T12:00:00.000-08:00

Lead in Vitamins?

I'm always very particular about the vitamins that take but it still shocked me to read this article. Personally I'm a Shaklee vitamins fan for many reasons but especially because they are not contaminated with lead and petroleum.

I found this quote particularly interesting "If we had a serious issue of safety, we'd be hearing concerns from consumers in large numbers and we're not," he said.

Uh excuse me but how many people would actually know or conclude that the vitamins that they are taking are actually causing some problems they may be facing. I know I've never gone to a doctor who questioned my vitamins or suggested they be tested etc. Even so if I suspected my vitamins I probably would stop taking them. Could this lack of complaints be because consumers are just not aware? Kind of hard to complain about a source when you know the source is actually the source.

A vitamin a day may do more harm than good - Diet & Nutrition - MSNBC.com

I wonder how many of us suffer unexplained infertility because of unknown toxins. You know one of my doctors told me about a couple who tried to conceive for 10 years and gave up. Later the couple were working on cleaning up their bodies and fell pregnant after going through a process of chelation. Turns out they were contaminated with lead, mercury etc..

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One Healthy Baby To Go Please

2007-01-11T23:19:00.000-08:00

Yippeee my anniversary is tomorrow and we are planning a trip to San Francisco for mini vacation. I've lived in So. Cal for 5 years and never made the trip up North so I'm really excited. I can't believe it's been 5 years already. And to think someone even said they would give our marriage 6 months (how rude).

Anyway my mother in law says that when we get back we are going to order a baby. "I'll have one healthy baby to go please." Awww if only it were that easy. Of course she has no idea that she has a better shot than I do right now. :). Maybe I'll let her place the order.

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One of those Days

2007-01-10T22:08:00.000-08:00

Ok it's 10pm and I just realized that today is January 10 and not tomorrow. I had a very important meeting (very important) about 12 hours ago and I missed it completely. For some odd reason I was thinking tomorrow is the 10th. Here I am preparing when I realize...uh oh. I'm not sure what's going to happen. Guess I'll find out tomorrow.

Pooh

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Documentary on IVF

2007-01-09T15:23:00.000-08:00

IVF Video

I've recently had the pleasure of watching this amazing documetary on IVF. I've watched it several times and I love it. I've been telling all of my (infertile) friends about it. Even with infertility affecting 80 million people, it's amazing how lonely you can feel. It's such a private issue that some of my closest friends do not know.

I sincerely, commend the couples who agreed to share their journey with everyone in hopes of helping other couples cope. The visuals are amazing and I learned more about IVF here than from any book I've read.

To show my gratitude, I contacted the producer (Andrei Kirilenko) and asked if I could help promote it. Please check it out and support his work and future endeavors.

I created the following website below to help promote this documentary

www.infertilityjourney.com

Please check it out and post comments here. If you have seen it please post your comments also.

Here's the trailer:

IVF movie

Goals for 2007

2007-01-06T18:12:00.000-08:00

Ok I really don't need to post my goals for this year, however if it's written here I will feel more compelled to get some to these things done. Some sound a little to petty to be on my to do list but the petty things are starting to pile up on me so here we go:

1. Start and complete my wedding scrapbook (5-year anniversary is this Friday so I'm a tad bit late.

2. Write the friends I met in Turkey last year.

3. Sell all of the stuff I don't need

4. Be one the the people I know having a baby this year.

Ok the last one is a little out of my hands but in my Thanksgiving post I mentioned that I knew someone due every month up until a June. Well now I have July and a possible August to add to the list. I'm pretty sure I will have a complete list this year so my goal is to be one of the players.

My sister in law and brother are expecting their first this month. This leaves me to be the only one in the family without. Always did like to be a little different :).

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67-year-old mom gives birth to twins - Pregnancy - MSNBC.com

2007-01-01T16:46:00.000-08:00

67-year-old mom gives birth to twins - Pregnancy - MSNBC.com

I ran across this short article yesterday and stopped. Ok we've all seen several articles like this and each time the new mother is a little older. The article doesn't say whether she is a first time mom or not but it still lends hope for the rest of us especially at this time of the year. I'm assuming IVF treatment was used.

However, if I'm not a mother at 67 or 57 and probably 47 I seriously don't think I will be trying but I commend her for not giving up although I do worry about several aspects of the children's lives.

More importantly its encouragement not to give up even when the odds are stacked against us in some cases (or at least if feels as so). I don't see my self as infertile but everyone has a challenge in life, an obstacle, and I guess this this is our little obstacle course and this year, this is exactly how I'm going to view it. I love a challenge so transforming the unpleasant into something pleasant is how I intend to approach conceiving a baby this year. I'm actually excited now.

My hubby was a little upset though because I said that I was giving up. I didn't mean no more trying but rather giving up our past mechanical methods. So, instead of dreading the 2ww, I can try to get as much of my other goals accomplished (I have a lot). Perhaps when those run out, I will need another plan, but this one should last awhile :).

IVF Children Suffer More Over-All Health Problems Than Naturally-Conceived Children

2006-12-14T22:50:00.000-08:00

Just in case you're wondering why I'm posting this article, its really to get your opinion. By your, I'm specifically speaking to those who are trying to get pregnant and finding it very difficult. There are several related articles and I'm left wondering how many people would take the chance if IVF was the only real chance they had of conceiving.

I could be going out on a limb here, but I wouldn't guess that most people who have (or know that they have) other options would not just opt for IVF. I guess the side effects and risks cross each and every patients mind but infertility drives people to measures they wouldn't otherwise think they were capable of handling.

I'm willing to guess that most patients would take their chances and hope and pray for the best, even if for no more than not being able to forgive themselves had they not at least tried. What are your thoughts? Personally the worry of having a child with abnormalities is there whether there is a fertility issue or not. At the end of the day I think I would do all that I could and pray for the best, just as I would if it were easier for me to conceive

IVF Children Suffer More Over-All Health Problems Than Naturally-Conceived Children

My Thanksgiving

2006-11-27T18:23:00.000-08:00

I know its a little late but just got a little busy. I had a wonderful Thanksgiving with my husband and my inlaws.

Usually this is my one save haven but lucky me, one of the couples invited announced a very early pregnany (6 weeks). It was a little awkward because they are fairly new acquaintances of my inlaws so I found it odd to announce it so early but anyway it shouldn't bother me. I guess it only did because I had just had a late period and what I thought was implantation spotting so I was a little extra sensitive when AF decided to join us for Thanksgiving.

And now for the icing on my cake, I now officially know at least one person due in every single month from January through July of next year. I'm sure I'll complete the entire year. Whoopy!

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Is this normal?

2006-11-19T20:51:00.000-08:00

Anxiety about becoming pregnant- even after trying to conceive for so long

Maybe it's just me but I'm starting to wonder if I am even cut out to be a mom. I suppose when its easier to get pregnant you don't really have time to sit around and think about the world of changes you life will take on once you have a child. There is the pregnancy excitement and then the real world.

I work a lot with teens and most of my friends have kids, and more than a few have newborns. After visiting them I fall in love with the babies but then the panic attack starts. This ususally starts as soon as they begin to cry and scream bloody murder for what seems to be no reason.

I really think the anxiety is normal because you want to be the best parent and provide the best for your family. This may sound strange coming from someone whose been trying for years to conceive but as much as I think I want to be a mom, the other sides wonders if I am up for the challenge or capable.

Do any of you feel this way?

F.I.R.S.T in South Georgia

2006-11-13T20:50:00.000-08:00

F.I.R.S.T Infertility Support Group

Being from South Carolina, I know how lonely it can feel with limited support from those who are struggling to conceive like me. Soooo, I just wanted to put the FYI out there for couples in South Georgia or the Valdosta, GA area. This new group is called Fertility Information Resource and Support Team.

Check it out if you're in the area
Moultrie Observer - South Georgians form infertility support group

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Iron Helps Infertility: Study

2006-11-01T12:54:00.000-08:00

ABC News: Iron Helps Infertility: Study

With all of studies being conducted on the possible links to infertility, one must conclude that optimal health seems to be the message screaming from each one. Proper diet and exercise are key - which is not surprising today with the consumption of ever so convenient processed foods and lack of exercise.

IVF.net Romania

2006-10-05T18:24:00.000-07:00

Worlds oldest mother and rise in egg donationin Romania

This is amazing. I can not imagine bringing a child (let alone two) into the world at 67 years of age. By this time in my life (provided I still have one) I'm not sure I would have the stamina to handle such a task. However I think I would be more concerned about orphaning them than anything.

Check it out and let me know what you think?
IVF.net - Romanian woman set to become world's oldest mother - IVF, Infertility and Embryology News and Resources for Scientists.

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Christian View on In Vitro Fertilization

2006-10-04T11:15:00.000-07:00

Is In Vitro Fertilization Morally Wrong?

I just read this article and I'm not sure what the Christian view of in vitro fertilzation is. I'm sure it depends on who you ask. So my question really is what makes it morally wrong for those who hold this opinion?

I'm in the dark on this and would love some insight or just do hear differeing opinions.
wfrv.com - Appleton Woman Testifies Against Catholic Schools: "School officials waited a month to fire Romenesko because they had not dealt with a similar situation before "

Is IVF Ethical?

Chinese Medicine-Overcome Infertility

2006-10-02T15:45:00.000-07:00

Alternative therapy to overcoming infertility

As the infertility epidemic continues to grow coupled with the uncertainty of traditional medicine, there seems to be a hike in the interests in Eastern medicine. It seems that Chinese medicine takes a more holistic approach to healing as opposed to focusing on one symptom. In my personal opinion, holistic healing is the way to go.

There a several options and a little research could help you determine which is best for you. Often they are less expensive than the traditional options. This particular article highlights Dr. Anglea Wu's (also called the Fertility Goddess) approach to overcoming infertility.

What are your thoughts? Has anyone successfully conceived by ways of Chinese medicine?
Common Ground: Fertility Wisdom

Acupuncture and Infertility

Infertility Management of Couples With HIV

2006-09-30T14:59:00.000-07:00

What is the consensus about discordant HIV couples undergoing in vitro fertilization (IVF) and the risks of transmitting the infection to the uninfected partner and fetus?

I ran across this interesting article today. I would love to hear your thoughts on it.
Infertility Management of Couples With HIV

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Importance of endometrium to ivf success

2006-09-28T22:35:00.000-07:00

Viagra therapy and successful pregnancies

In case anyone was wondering whether or not the edometrium or endometrial lining is importance to the success of IVF, the following article may provide an answer. I mention IVF but it really doesn't matter whether you are trying to conceive naturally or with ART, the importance of endometrial lining is the same it seems.

SIRM: ENDOMETRIAL LINING AND IVF OUTCOME: "While three of the four women subsequently conceived, the study is too small to prove that these pregnancies can be attributed to the Viagra therapy. Larger independent and controlled studies will be needed to demonstrate this. "

I'm not sure of the date of this article, but let me know what you think?

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A SILENT AGONY

2006-09-26T13:53:00.000-07:00

Secondary Infertility

It seems that patients suffering from secondary infertility have an extra hurdle to cross. I personally do not think that this situation is any less stressful, however it will inevitably receive less sympathy. Perhaps lack of education is the blame.

For patients suffering from primary infertility, there is also a lack of education surrounding the issue. However, those who have at least one child will most likely be told to be greatful for that. I'm sure they hear phrases like "well at least you have...."

Honestly I still think I would rather have to suffer from secondary infertility than primary infertility, but I do not think at all that it should be ignored or be a cause for discrimination.
The Daily Record - NEWS - A SILENT AGONY

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JLo seeks fertility treatment

2006-09-21T21:35:00.000-07:00

JLo and IVF

I find it amazing that most find fertility problems and treatment to be very private issues that we share only with our close friends and relatives, but it seems that celebrities seem to be a little more open about theirs.

Although I'm sure any attempt to keep it under wraps would be exposed, it doesn't appear to be a panic/stressful issue here. Well at least she doesn't have to worry about the financial aspect--that alone will alleviate much of my problems. :)

I wish her the best although the emphasis on 2 babies is a little confusing. Most of us are dieing for one healthy baby. But hey who am I to speculate?

Tonight - JLo seeks fertility treatment

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Baby Shower Tomorrow

2006-09-15T15:29:00.000-07:00

What about Baby Showers!

I'm throwing a baby shower for a dear friend tomorrow. Another acquaintance stated that it must be tough for me to do this. Mind you this is the same person who told me I was thinking about getting pregnant too much.

Actually, I'm very happy to do this for her. She tried for a very long time to get pregnant also so it's not like its one of those "whoops." Secondly, I love her dearly and I can't wait to see her baby. She understands what we go through and is very supportive, the least I could do is have a happy get-together for her.

For now, thankfully I haven't found baby showers to be a difficult tasks and I'm hoping it remains that way. I'm trying to stay positive. I'm hoping tomorrow is a perfect day for her as well as hoping that I don't end up in a slump. Prayers needed. :)

They've scared us: it's the men's turn now

2006-09-11T23:05:00.000-07:00

"Every woman over 25 feel like an ageing piece of produce indelibly stamped with a sell-by date."

I found this quote quite interesting and true oddly enough. We get nervous knowing that our clock is ticking. The pressure of knowing you have a few years to conceive coupled with not being able to do so easily.

While on the other hand, our male counterparts are encourage to relax because they have all the time in the world. Well according to this article, they may have to jump on the biological bandwagon as well.

You can read the article here:
Telegraph Comment They've scared us: it's the men's turn now

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Denying free IVF on basis of Obesity?

2006-09-09T18:47:00.000-07:00

Obesity = pay for IVF?

I guess this is a prime example of "kick you while you're down." Dealing with obesity and infertility has to be extremely trying. But to deny free IVF on the basis of obesity alone? I agree if there are health risks to back this decision. However, if you are going to deny free IVF on the basis of being overweight, then the procedure should not be performed at all on overweight patients.

This article brings up other issues related to adopting this opinion. I realize that there are risks but the risks are there whether or not the patient pays, so why take the risks if she pays?
Can we deny free IVF to overweight women? - The Herald

Obesity and Infertility

Breakthrough offers hope for Infertilie Women

2006-09-08T18:44:00.000-07:00

Hope for women born with no uterus and post hysterectomies

It's quite obvious now that I have an obsession with women who are going through infertility. There are so many causes linked to infertility but this one just amazes me. Call me crazy but I've never heard of women being born without a uterus as a common cause. According to the article 15,000 women in Britain alone are born this way.

What's even more amazing is that there is hope that these women will be able to give birth soon. In addition women who have had hysterectomies are included in this group. Makes me think that this infertility wave will soon be a think of the past. At least there's hope!

First womb transplant 'within two years'

Obesity and Male Infertility

2006-09-07T15:30:00.000-07:00

Male infertility related to obesity

I ran across this article today. Another one of those seemingly simple and often overlooked factors. It's obvious that optimal health is the best starting point for ruling out these types of causes. Imagine trying for years only to find out that your troubles could be greatly reduced by just a few simple lifestyle changes.

Check out the article here:
Aging - Health Topics and Medical News Stories: "risk of infertility. This was true regardless of a man's age. It is possible that male obesity leads to less sexual intercourse and less opportunity for conception. But male obesity may cause poorer quality semen and hormonal differences and this may also result in infertility. "

�Crocodile Hunter� Steve Irwin dies - Asia-Pacific - MSNBC.com

2006-09-04T18:58:00.000-07:00

�Crocodile Hunter� Steve Irwin dies - Asia-Pacific - MSNBC.com

I know this is a little off topic but I woke up this morning and a friend of mine had sent a link to this article. Not they way I Imagined starting the day. Our hearts and prayers go out to his family. It's a reminder that life is so short. He will be sorely missed by all of the fans of the show but I'm sure many will find comfort knowing that he died doing what he lived for.

What do they expect us to say?

2006-09-01T17:11:00.000-07:00

Soooo, when are you going to start a family?

Ok, just a little vent time. Along with the relax, this has to be the most annoying question. Sadly it doesn't stop until you either have a kid or hurt someone's feelings or divulge that you are having trouble getting pregnant right now but thank you for rubbing it in.

After getting asked this so much, I have yet to figure out a proper response. I guess part of it is because I don't know what the heck one expects you to say. If infertility is not an issue, then I guess you could say something like "maybe a little later." But what do you say otherwise?

A friend of my husband had a cute response to the older women who would ask. When asked when they were going to start a family, he would reply "Toniiiiight." LOL. Any other suggestions? I guess when I get asked this question, I get so annoyed that my first reaction is to say "Mind your business." But of course I'm not that outspoken.

Ok venting over but I welcome suggestions?

Insensitive comments

Infertility Treatment Guide

2006-08-31T16:34:00.000-07:00

Excellent Guide for those undergoing infertility treatment

Ok some of you may know this already, but for those who don't I'm attaching a link to a very helpful guide. This guide is a must for those who are just beginning to undergo fertility treatment or those who are weighing their options.

This guide is 48 pages and is in pdf format but it is an easy read. It includes information from compiling your medical records up through the treatment cycles. Also commonly useful resources are listed.

Check it out:

http://www.fertilityjourney.com/authfiles/images/588_145078.pdf

Dealing With the Comments

2006-08-30T17:04:00.000-07:00

Just Relax - You're thinking about it too much!

How many times have we heard these phrases in one way or another? For anyone that is ttc I'm sure the answer is "too many." About a week ago a friend of mine (not super close) asked me this question the night after I was discussing with my husband how this frustrates me. Of course they mean well but when does it stop?

What made this time so different was that she insisted that this is the problem. Usually they just say "Oh just relax...." but I was told that I was thinking about it too much and when I replied "No, I'm not." She replied "Yes, you are" and I replied "No, I'm not." This went one for at least one more rep until I promised that I am not. Of course this is coming for a person that gets pregnant if "my husband just looks at me." I don't expect her to understand but dude don't try to diagnose me either.

I'm in no way mad at her, but for those who do not know, telling a couple or person that has been ttc to "relax" is a big no no. Instead offer an ear or any type of help if they need it. Be supportive but don't make them feel like they are to blame, trust me they have probably already been there and don't need any help in this area.

Dealing with Insensitive Comments

Wanna-be parents win 'write' to try

2006-08-29T20:28:00.000-07:00

Essay Pays for IVF Treatment

The Record - Wanna-be parents win 'write' to try

Wouldn't it be nice if every fertility clinic was as creative and generous? Creating some type of contest in which the winners receive a free round of IVF treatment seems like a noble idea to me. With the cost of IVF averaging $12,400 and drugs averaging $3-5,000, it would be great help to those who are struggling with the financial aspect of infertility treatment.

Who knows maybe it could be restricted to those who have no fertility coverage. Have a look, maybe we should approach our clinics with this idea huh?

Baby's Death = Slap on the Wrist

2006-08-22T19:46:00.000-07:00

IVF baby lost due to negligence

My heart sincerely goes out to this family who is grieving the lost of their 7-month foetus that was conceived via IVF. Imagine the distress of going through infertility, conceiving and having it all lost due to a negligent driver. And if that's not enough, he walks away. Talk about justice!

You can read the article here and let me know your feelings.
System let us down over baby's death, says crash mother - National - smh.com.au

Cost of IVF in United Kingdom

2006-08-21T21:45:00.000-07:00

Donate eggs in exchange for IVF cost!

Well I just ran across this interesting article. If you are living in the UK, it may be even more interesting. It seems as though there may be some options when it comes to funding the costs of IVF treatment.

You can check out the article here:
BBC NEWS Health Cloning team's IVF deal for eggs: "first time that payment can be given for IVF eggs used in research. "

It sounds like an interesting program. I think we would have many takers here if it were an option. It may even be worth the trip to the UK for this. Donating eggs for stem cell research, which may aid in developing treatments forAlzheimer's disease, diabetes and Parkinson's in exchange for low cost IVF. Is this a win-win scenario?

I'm Taking a Break

2006-08-19T19:11:00.000-07:00

Infertility Sucks!

So I decided to take a break. Because there seems to be no obvious reason for me not conceiving, I've decided to look for the not so obvious reasons. I'm starting with my overall health. As for now, I decided that before I proceed with ART, I would try to figure out the cause of my infertility.

Right now I don't know if I can handle the emotional and financial strain of failure with ART. I'm not being pessimistic at all, just careful. I need time to think through and figure out my next plan of action. In the mean time, I'm reading and looking for information that may inspire me or anyone else dealing with infertility. This includes information for those who know the cause of their infertility also.

Fortunately (or maybe unfortunately) I have had a quite a bit of advice from friends. One is to find out the problem first and not to let the desperation cause you to make a hasty decision. So right now I'm borderline obsessed with information.

As always this blog is to share information, tips, encouragement, support and anything else that helps those who are dealing with infertility to manage it better.

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Surviving After Infertility or Loss

2006-08-16T18:49:00.000-07:00

S.A.I.L

is more than a new support group for women suffering from Infertility but is also providing sympathy for those mourning the loss of a child. This group provides memorials for family bereavement to mourn the loss of a child and support those who are trying to conceive. Memory boxes are delivered to hospitals and clinics and given to women filled with carefully chosen items such as candles, devotionals, journals etc...

This is quite a unique program developed by a woman who suffered a painful loss. After reading this article, it reminds me to be thankful for what I do have. I am still trying to conceive but I don't know if its worse to conceive and lose or never conceive. At this point I still have hope.

Let me know what you think of the article and this new program.

Hattiesburg American - www.hattiesburgamerican.com - Hattiesburg, Miss.: "Surviving After Infertility or Loss"

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My Omectomy

2006-08-15T14:03:00.000-07:00

Removal of my Fibroids

Ok so I schedule my appointment and go in for the surgery. The surgery was only supposed to be approximately 45 minutes for the removal of one fibroid. It ended up taking 4 hours. My husband was a nervous wreck considering no one came out to brief him on the situation. It turns out I had 8 fibroids and a severe case of endometriosis. As my doctor described "everything was all stuck together, but its all clean now and your tubes are beautiful."

I was able to go home 5 days later (as opposed to the normal two). I kept a fever most of the time and couldn't go home in that condition. The worst part was the lack of food and eating only broth and ice chips. I seriously think I was so sick afterwards because I was unable to get 5 mintues of rest. The moment I would nearly dose off, there was someone to check vitals or something. I mean come on do they really expect you to get better? LOL.

Anyway I finally made it home. I'm happy to say that ever since the surgery my cycles have been a lot more pleasant. No more cramping (at least not enough to need medication). I have to admit, I have a lot more energy and feel so much better. I never realized that my severe fatigue was a side effect of the fibroids. I read about other women and how it affected them in my book Healing Fibroids: A Doctor's Guide to a Natural Cure. Health is wealth and I'm still on the journey to overall health.

Healing Fibroids Naturally?

2006-08-09T14:03:00.000-07:00

Fibroids Anyone?

Ok so a year or so of not getting pregnant after my definition of regular unprotected sex, I decide to visit my OB/GYN (I just love her). I explain my concern and she decides let's try for 6 more months before I prescribe Clomid. It seems as though I had no problem ovualting anyway so what would Clomid do for that?

Now at this time I was use to painful cramping around that time. However one month I felt like I was giving birth. Well what I assume feels like giving birth (you know verrrry painful). Cut me some slack alright. Anywho after rolling around and crying and finally getting a little relief from my Aleve I tried to move on. Later that evening I noticed clots that could have sunk the titanic.

In the doctor's office again we discovered the culprit. Fibroids. After having an MRI we discovered the exact location. With this huge monstrosity occupying the home of my future child, a myomectomy is suggested.

A friend of mine, as thoughtful as she is, went and did a little research and found a book that she knew would appeal to me. "Healing Fibroids: A Doctor's Guide to a Natural Cure." Sold, I went out and purchased it and I loved it. I still had to have the surgery because I'm just that fortunate but I thoroughly enjoyed reading the book and I gained a lot of useful information from it.

What Does Infertile Really Mean?

2006-08-08T11:30:00.000-07:00

Infertility means difficulty in conceiving (becoming pregnant) despite having regular sex without using contraception.

During the last few years, I've come to realize a few things. One is that this type of definition needs to be a little more clear. "Despite having regular sex." Well what exactly is having regular sex? For one it may be once per week for another several times per week and for others maybe a couple times per month.

So for a couple who's been having regular sex (once/week) for more than 12 months and not achieve pregnancy, they would be considered, infertile. An entire work-up would be done and provided nothing else is found, you would be diagnosed with unexplained infertility and offered to try IVF or some other form of ART.

After the first visit to my reproductive endocrinologist's office, I filled out all of the paperwork. She never once asked me about the frequency. Not to say that is everyone's experience, but I just naturally assumed that she would ask and then say will we recommend trying at least "x" times per week. Nothing.

Seems farfetched but I've met several couples who have fallen into the same category. Some trying for several years before realizing "I need to have more sex." Even to the point of scheduling IVF!

So after doing a little research, I found that regular is recommended as around 3 times per week. Now in no way is this the case with everyone, but enough that it needs to be addressed.

Has anyone experienced similar stories?

Worms- Infertility Cure?

2006-08-02T21:50:00.001-07:00

Worms and infertility cure

Ok, well I would have never guessed I would see these words in the same sentence. But here it is. I guess if you've experienced the overwhelming uncertainy that infertility brings, then just about anything sounds promising, especially if infertility and cure are in the same sentence. I'm all for whatever works.

One major issue is that a lot of couples do not know the cause of their fertility problems. Cure can seem a little vague. The workup is normal, you're healthy, but oh yeah you're infertile. Uhhh too me that may suggest that there is another problem somewhere else. But that's just me, what do I know?

Check out the article, let me know what you think.
CMU News: Article: "
CMU RESEARCHER SAYS WORMS MAY UNLOCK INFERTILITY CURE"

The Journey from Infertility to Fertility

2006-08-01T13:15:00.000-07:00

It's amazing how many couples are suffering from infertility.

The emotional and financial burden is enough to drive anyone mad. On a somewhat brighter side, you discover more about yourself and have a new found appreciation for life (well sometimes). Some struggle to make a living everyday, some struggle with other health problems and some struggle with trying to conceive. It is a journey and an adventure.

I created this blog to encourage dialogue for those who are currently trying to conceive (ttc). Here you can post questions or answers or even opinions. Also welcome are those who have conceived and have advice and or stories to share. Venting is most welcome (of course it must be kept clean).

For those who are interested, I'm still ttc after nearly 4 years and I'm conducting a survey regarding infertility and issues least addressed that arise in this journey. There are are only 10 questions (7 open ended) and is completely anonymous. If you choose to participate, the survey can be accessed at http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=638312395130

Thank you in advance for your participation.